We all know those people. The ones that are constantly under a grey cloud saying poor me. They are always in their frustrations and act as if the world is out to get them. They think no one could possibly understand their pain. And sometimes life does feel this way and “You are allowed to grieve, be sad and frustrated. But! You do not have permission to feel sorry for yourself.”(Father Mike Schmitz).
Things come up, we have long days, our boss is a jerk, someone annoyed us, things don’t go according to plan, and traumatic events happen in our lives but we have to learn to accept that life is difficult. We are not promised an easy life or a pampered life but like Father Mike says, we are called to be like Jesus. Jesus never once felt sorry for himself, not when he was being rejected, prosecuted or hung on the cross. It is in our troubling times that we can really grow. Isaiah 40: 29-31 says, “He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak. Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.”
We use our hard times to make excuses for why we can’t share our gifts and Christ light with others. For example you don’t go to church because you had a long week and you were tired. Or you couldn’t go volunteer because you had a long day at work. Or you didn’t want to go hang out with someone because it’s been a rough week and you know they are going to complain the whole time. These are little ways that we can continue to show others Christ love but we miss these opportunities because we are stuck in our own little world where only our own problems matter. I am not saying that you shouldn’t give yourself time to process your day. You own yourself love too but make sure you are asking daily, where can I serve today?
“I rejoiced greatly in the Lord that at last you renewed your concern for me. Indeed, you were concerned, but you had no opportunity to show it. I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4: 10-13
Think about this for a minute. Are you able to be content no matter what the circumstance maybe be? How do you handle minor and major inconveniences? Do you get fussy, snappy or crabby when things are not going your way or you are dealing with annoying people? Do you shut off from the world and your own responsibilities such as, going to church, checking on friends and family, working out and taking care of yourself, when life is not going according to your plan?
Feeling sorry for yourself does two things according to Father Mike.
Remember to grieve, remember to feel what you are feeling, but don’t fall into poor me. Life will always keeps moving even when you wish things would pause. Don’t let go of your power to serve and show love.
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My name is Carly and I am on the leadership team for FIGHT club. I help with making sure everyone knows what we talk about. I will be writing most of these posts on meetings that we have, but every now and again there will be a guest blogger. Please tell us what you think. I hope you enjoy:)